Catching his attention, he turned his body fully towards me. "Because she is a simple villager, she probably had no clue about the expectations of coming of age. If she is concerned about a random child from the village fucking her children, being so nonchalant or even excited will seem insane. Especially if you expect Haruki to get fucked in the ass. Many cultures, unfortunately, feel that males that take such a submissive roll are disqualified from being considered healthy men. They might say they are insane or deviant perverts. Even males that take a dominant role with other males are seen as deviant and are less trusted." I explained. "That's so horrible. Rin, Hibiki and Asahi are all male kunoichi, and we'd trust them with our lives any day of the week! They are not lesser than some weak farmhand with no chakra!" he said with balled fists. "I agree with you. But that is because I am a big wanderer that's seen a whole lot of cultures and still wanted to be a ninja. You fell in love with Chie, but she clearly had a ton of reservations. You need to have a heart to heart with her soon."
It was then that he waved me off. "There's no way I can talk to her now. She is my woman and the children are part of the clan. Chie has to learn to live with this." he said. My jaw dropped. "Izayoi. That is literally the way you get her to hate you for the rest of her life. Do you actually want that!?" I demanded. "Of course not!! But what am I supposed to do!? We're from clearly different worlds. What could I even say to her about this!?" he screamed in my face. "You need to actually be the man that your clan says you are and actually have a grown up, emotionally charged conversation with the woman you love. If you can't even talk about your feelings and aspirations, I can't believe you when you say you love her." I snapped back. His eyes went cold. "Say that shit again." he challenged me. "We said we were ready to hear what I had to say till the end. Get over yourself. Chie probably thinks we're all evil child predators that want to rape her only children and you are sitting here saying she just has to suck it up!? Does that sound like love to you. I'm on your side. Just ask for help!"
Doing that meant swallowing a fair bit of pride. "What the fuck do I say?" he asked me. I looked at him. "I don't know her. So I can't give you a script. You'll have to think it out on your own." I said. He looked like he was about to curse me out, so I cut him off by shoving my fingers in his face as I listed things off. "First, apologize for making her so scared and confused her and the children cried. That was a poor showing as a father. Second, tell her that it is hard, but you want to understand why she is so against it. Like I said, I'm a wanderer. She might tell you what I told you. She might tell you something different. Whatever she tells you, say she is right to believe it. The point is so she feels like she isn't the crazy one. You're not either, and you'll prove it with number 3. Third, explain in the most neutral terms what your culture is like with the Kirume Clan. It's different. You want her on your side, but it might not work at first. It's fine. Fourth, gently explain what the children will be expected to do. Probably push Haruki being a shinobi. Fifth, assure her the kids want it. Tell her they're ready."
